If you’re on social media (and if you’re not then there’s a teeny tiny part of me that envies you) then you’ve probably seen everyone jumping on the bandwagon and choosing a word they want to focus on with the start of the new year.
People are selecting some really great focus words that they want to keep in the forefront of their mind as they navigate through their goals this year. Things like “movement,” “resilient,” “strong.” I’ve seen so many great ones, that I started thinking.. what should my focus word be?
So I’ve thought, and I’ve thought, and I’ve reflected a little bit. And what I’ve come to realize is that I don’t want really want the pressure of having to come up with one more thing on my list that I’m trying to be or one more thing that I’m trying to do. Because ultimately what will happen is that I’ll come up with a really great word, but then after some times passes, I’ll think of another. And another. And I will stress myself out to the point where I’m not actually living up to any of those amazing words because I’m too busy burying myself in the plans of the goal for each word and what it truly means to live that word with true intention. (Although, ‘intention’ was a word I had in mind for this year, but more on that topic another day).
I’m so guilty of filling my plate until it’s full (both literally and metaphorically). I take on project after project until my to-do list is longer than my all-done list. And as much as I love staying busy and thinking of new ideas, sometimes it gets to be a bit much. And sometimes I get overwhelmed (thanks, anxiety), and I spend my time focusing on ALL THE THINGS that I’m not always the best at being present at the times I want to be, or better yet, need to be.
Have you seen the meme of crazy-cartoon Cruella Deville as she’s driving with her hair all wild and it says something like, “This is me trying to find time to work out, drink enough water, sleep for 8 hours, text everyone back, etc. etc.” Raise your hand if you can relate, because I got both mine up and waving frantically.
I have enough. I have so many things in the works for this year that I am bursting at the seams with excitement and happiness, and busy-ness that I don’t need to stress myself out by trying to add one more thing in my life that I “need” to focus on. So this is one trend I’m not jumping on the bandwagon with. I love it, but I can’t do it. At least not right now.
Instead of adopting a focus word for myself for the year, I’m adopting a motto (which okay, I guess technically this can be considered the same as a focus word, but hear me out and I think you’ll see the difference).
My motto for 2019 is this: Never break a promise to yourself. (So then if you wanna get real technical I guess I could adopt a focus word like.. loyal, promise, commitment, or that ‘intention’ that I threw out there earlier).
I am adopting this motto so during the times that I start to feel overwhelmed with all the things; the photoshoots, and the projects, and the collaborations, and the articles, and the baseball practices, and the games, and drinking enough water, and remembering to text people back, and finding time to wash my hair, and grocery shop, and make dinner, and do the laundry (omg that freaking laundry pile), and the dishes, and helping Coop with homework, and being a witty and loving wife, and responding to emails, and double checking orders, and coming up with new ideas for my business…
When I’m wanting to neglect an area of my life that I shouldn’t because I know I have so much else going on? I will remind myself this..
Natasha. Never break a promise to yourself.
And I have promised myself that in addition to putting my family first, I will start to put myself first as well, a practice that I have let slide over these past couple years.
That I will try really hard to know it’s okay to say “I will do this tomorrow, because right now – I’m going to work out” – because exercise helps me de-stress and find peace.
To say “this can wait” and turn off my light at a reasonable hour and try to get more than a couple hours of sleep (just not tonight – baby steps).
Because as much as I love every single thing I’ve committed to and am doing in my life, I need to start taking accountability for MYSELF. And knowing that none of the things that I love to do, will continue if I can’t do them. And in order for that to happen, I need to make self-care a priority.
So there you have it. I love the focus words, so keep them coming! Maybe I’ll write them down and store them in a separate space to pull out and read a different day. But right now.. I’m focusing on some pretty big goals, and I’m putting Natasha at the top of my list for 2019.
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Natasha Funderburk is a wife, #boymom, NASM-Certified Personal Trainer, Certified Nutrition Consultant, and ACE-Behavior Change Specialist. When not watching her son play baseball, she can be found on various writing platforms, coaching her clients to live their best lives, drinking all the coffee, and conducting living-room dance parties.